Ramblings of a Blonde Brunette

I felt the need to share some insight today or to pass on a little friendly advice. Yesterday we found out a family member of ours took his own life on Saturday night. It’s heartbreaking to hear something like this has happened to someone in your family. It hits you like a ton of bricks and makes you question so many things. He was battling some demons for sure, but what hurt me the most was to hear how alone he felt and how tired he grew of dealing with the cards he’d been dealt in life. How many of us have felt that way or had a friend or family member we know who has felt that way? All of us. Did you reach out to help or did you just assume it was no big deal and let them handle it? Because this is what I’ve learned…..they may not ask for help. It’s your duty as a friend to check on your friends…..make sure they’re ok…..make sure if they need help, they get it. Don’t be one of those people who only wants to be around for the good times in life, because that’s not what real friends do. No one always has good days. That’s not the way life is. We all struggle with things at some point. If you’re a friend, you don’t get to pick and choose when you want to be one. You reach out….if you haven’t heard from someone in awhile, text, call, drop by…..at least make an attempt to show them YOU care, even if it seems like no one else does. If they don’t want you there or they don’t want to talk, remind them that if they change their mind, you’re just a call away, but don’t just leave it at that and let it go. Personally, I don’t want to be friends with someone who won’t reach out to check in on me occasionally or one who makes me feel like an inconvenience or a burden because I’m having a rough week. I go out of my way for those who are important to me, even if it means they get irritated with me for bothering them. At least I won’t be filled with guilt about whether or not I did anything to help them out. I’ll know I did everything I could have. I’d rather be an irritance to someone than the lousy friend who never bothered to show them the kindness they’d shown me. If you have a struggling friend, please call or text them today. Your call might be the one thing that makes all the difference. Kindness counts so spread some around.