Been thinking about this particular ‘take care of yourself’ post for a bit. Let me just jump right into a little lecture about self care and how important it is to do…..you can take care of your physical body by working out and feeding it healthy food but if you aren’t also taking care of your mental/emotional self, you aren’t ultimately going to stay healthy as a whole. As a personal trainer, it’s my duty to tell you that physical care is vital, but so is mental/emotional care! I am often overly nice to a fault….I didn’t realize there was such a thing, but there is. I tend to think of others way more than I do myself, and therefore, I struggle to find a way to put myself first without feeling guilty, and then I suffer emotionally. My care and concern go to everyone else and then there’s not enough left for me. Throughout the past year I have tried to find a balance and have made the tough decision to cut a few people out. I had no choice. There was no other option. I’m finding I need to do that again. When you’re kind, you also tend to get taken advantage of, and though you might not initially see that, (trust me, it’s a learning process)…it’s a real thing. You can’t fix everyone and everything. Some people you just have to let go. You can reach out (as you should) but sometimes they’ll just continually blow you off. It seems some people are only happy when they’re miserable if that makes sense. They won’t be helped until they see that they need it. No use in beating a dead horse. If I try to help someone and they deny it over and over, then I’m wasting my time & I refuse to do that for anyone. Once I’m done, I’m done. You must take self care seriously. In a short amount of time you will plummet if you don’t. I saw that happening to me within the past month or so again for a variety of reasons. My health is suffering. I am having to make some rough decisions that will probably hurt some of the people I care about, but if we don’t take care of ourselves, who will do it for us? I don’t make those decisions without a lot of thought and I certainly don’t do it to be spiteful. That being said, my health matters too. If I cut you off, it was only because I had no other choice.
You become who you surround yourself with. If you’re hanging around people who are always smack dab in the middle of drama, you’re inevitably surrounded with it as well. If you are constantly trying to cheer people up, their mood is going to eventually drag you down with them. Angry people make everyone around them angry. Sad people make other people sad. Happy people typically tend to keep people uplifted and positive. While not everyone has good days……that’s just a fact…..you MUST look at the situation as a whole. If all you accomplish is constantly trying to boost someone, it might become more of a job than a friendship. That will turn into resentment in the long run. That’s the point I reached last year when I started making cuts and using my personal FB page less often. You can’t just be the fixer. Take care of YOU. It’s ok to be selfish if what you’re doing is separating yourself from the toxic.
Ramblings of a Blonde Brunette 